Follow by Email

Monday, April 7, 2014

Managing Goals

Goals Can - Friend or Foe

By the time you read through this post you will understand where I have been and why I have not posted again for a while.  I do look forward to getting back to a regular schedule of posting 2 -3 posts per week.  I am hoping for 2 during the week and then Sunday to pay respect to God and what he has done for me.

I have not been keeping track of my diabetic statistics and again you will find out why in a moment.

I do want to welcome all visitors and we continue to attract new ones even when I take time out from posting.

I also ask you continue to pray for the 239 passengers on Malaysia flight MH370.  I also ask that you continue to pray for Gabby and that his conflicting diseases can be managed to a successful recovery.

Original Goal Posting

Set goals be realistic was my original post on setting goals and being realistic.  You can refer back to that post to see what my long term vision and goals entailed.

But if you do not want to go back - basically I was outlining how I want to get back into playing golf on a competitive basis as a reward for my work in getting my health under control. I think it is important to have these dreams so that when we are down or when the disease appears to be winning - we have some tools and weapons to use to fight off depression, anger, frustration, or any other down feelings.

When Goals Conflict

So I have basically two major goals I am working towards - health management and playing golf on a competitive basis again.  There are other goals and things I want to do but one is a needed goal and the other in my mind is a reward goal.

This past month these two goals were in conflict with each other and that is not good.  The goal of competing again was not clear or specific enough to measure - that is when a goal can go wrong.  I stated I wanted to be able to compete and in the beginning it meant just go out there and be able to play a couple of days at a tournament, not get tired, and post a respectable score.

Does not appear to be harmful at that level. Last week, I competed in my first event that meant something - The Tennessee State Sr. Olympics Qualifier.  If I could land first place in my age bracket I would go on to Nationals and if I posted a qualifying score of 80 I could go to nationals.  For me, to post an 80 is no problem as I have been practicing and knew I could do that.

All the time a goal change was happening in my mind and I did not recognize it and did not keep it in check or manage it.  My mind switched from thinking about competing and being respectable to "Let's do this and go to Nationals!"  I had set an unofficial goal and a goal not well defined in my mind.

I started spending each waking hour and moment on practice and that along with some unplanned time management scenarios, I was not getting to the gym as regular as I needed to and also found myself eating more on the course versus out of my kitchen.  My "healthy" goal started to take a back seat to my golfing goal - all because I was not planning or managing to the original goal.

So my weight has gone up a couple of pounds and my blood glucose levels have increased - to levels back last year when I was early in my journey.

So there I am stuck in a mindset where my mind, heart, and soul is driving out goals that I was not prepared to handle or manage properly.

The good news is, I did successfully qualify for Nationals next year - but at what price and was it all worth it. Now that it is all over, I would say no.  It is a big deal to be going to Nationals but not at a price of missing my health goals - so while the golf goal was helping me manage my health goal - it was a friend.  However, when it dominated and I forgot my health goal - it was an enemy or foe!  

BEWARE OF GOALS WEARING A CLOAK OF GOODNESS WHEN THEY ARE TRULY CLOAKED IN DISASTER.

In the Moment Goal Management

During the course of play - I did use some very good methods to overcome events that were impacting my golf game and I think explaining how I got through the round then can be matched to how we can use Goals and Goal Management to help us with our disease.

I am a member of the American Diabetes Association as you are aware.  Marty98 (we have handles) posted a comment a while back to someone who was struggling and Marty98 said something I could relate to - Managing In The Moment. She was discussing how she sometimes uses this just to get through the day - like okay "Now it is time to tie my shoe" and she focuses on the moment to get through it.

In golf, we call that "Managing your score, one shot at a time."  This is what got me thinking, how do we use these special techniques to help us get through our daily events and through life without this disease getting us down.

In my round of golf I was teamed with someone who would not stop talking and thought he was "Mr Know It All."  Now to a guy like me, that hurts as I know I am Mr. Know It All and I want no competition.  Not actually true but some of my close friends would find this funny.

So I was bothered the first day and shot a horrible score which took away the concept of winning.  So My goal on day 1 was to win but by the end of the day, I had a new goal - just qualify.  All along neither of those goals matched my original goal but they were the ones in my head that day.

On the second day I was paired with him again in the cart.  I was bound and determined I was not going to let him bother me.  To qualify, I had to shoot an 80 in my age bracket.  So I started off well but 3 holes into it he was getting to me again and I shot a 42 on the front side.  That meant I had to stay very clean for the back nine and shoot a score of 38 which is only 2 over par - the perfect score in golf.

As I made the turn or started to play the back nine, I tried to put myself in the moment and play one hole at a time.  As luck would have it, I boogied hole 10 and was now at the point I could only drop 1 more shot in the next 8 holes.  I was really in a bad way now and had to tighten my focus and goals.  I switched to one shot at a time and worked on taking the score out of my mind.  It was almost like "okay time to tie your shoe now."  But in my case it was I am here now and how do I get this ball in that hole in regulation.

I was successful in "living in the moment" or "one shot at a time" and it helped me reach my over all goal - qualify for Nationals.

How Does This Apply to Diabetes 

I think they are very similar in many ways and managing the "beast" within us is an every second job.  However, none of us can live that way and things do get in our way so we must be prepared to change and adopt as life throws us curves.

Blood Glucose Level

We have a meter, a finger prick, and an instant reading on how our blood glucose level is at that given moment.  We can live in this moment to decide what to do.  If it is high, maybe a little walk to bring it down is important.  If I am a little low, maybe I need to eat something.  Or maybe it is okay but I have not eaten for a while so should I consume some food or not and how much.

The meter can be used to define for us a current situation and then we train ourselves to live by the reading.

On a longer term basis, we have our A1c that is a 60-90 day average of our blood glucose reading.  I am always amazed at this knowing our bodies know how important all of this is to be able to have an average built into our blood DNA.  This helps us establish a more realistic goal - what do I want to be at the next test.  We reach this goal by monitoring our meter and making sure we monitor our blood glucose level "in the now."  It is simple then to monitor - go in, take the test, and see how we are doing with our goal.  Much like my qualifying 80, I am okay - could do better but I reached my goal.  Or maybe I did did not qualify and what can I do better the next time.

From there it is time to look at the next visit and determine what the new goal will be and how will we manage to that goal.

Life's Interfering Moments


Like my golf game, life throws things at us on a regular basis - just to keep us on our toes.  When these events hit - like our meters, we need to manage through the moment or take one shot at a time - okay breath, relax, deal with the change, and put a new course in place.

Many times people ask what I do in these situations when frustration hits, or depression comes calling, or maybe I am happy and want to celebrate.

There is no easy answer and since I am in computers and not a psychologist ,  I am not the one to answer the question.  However, I do have some things that I use to help manage through the event and stay the course:

1. Change is going to happen, learn to embrace the change and put a plan in action.  If you know the Serenity Prayer, you learn to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can.  In simple terms, learn to know what is in your power to control and manage, the rest give it up to your Higher Power to help guide you through those times

2.  Breath or relax.  Make you first reaction to a change as taking a breath and slowing down your mind so you are in control not your emotions.  Give you mind a chance to do what it does best - rationalize what it knows and move you out of harm's way.  Often times we fight this and that causes us to stay worried as we have no plan to manage the moment.

3. When depression sits in, I have learned to identify it quickly.  I am lucky as I am not clinically depressed - so keep in mind, I am not talking to those who are.  I am talking to those of us who can manage it on our own.  Once I identify I am depressed, I get myself up and usually go exercise to get the mind and body working again.  Or I read a good book or listen to Christian music - find something that lifts you up.

I hope all of this makes sense.

May God grant us the ability to live in the moment and not think of the past and worry about the future.  May he allow us the wisdom to know how living in the moment and making each moment a success will allow us to reach our goals with success.  May he also help us set goals that make sense for us and not the other guy.

Bob,




 

4 comments:

  1. Good morning Bob! Much has been going on in my life, including losing my sweet Dora on last Thursday....she is at peace now. Thank you so much for all your prayers and mentioning Dora's story in your blog....I have my movies and pictures of her to keep her memory of her with me and of course she resides in my heart always.

    The week before we lost another person at the nursing home, it throwed the entire place into shock at the loss of one of my mama's nurses and a friend to us as well....Jerry an RN, type 1 contracted the virus that was running rampart through the nursing home....when he did not call in, Lisa another type 1 RN became really concerned and the administrator was able to get in touch with his sister who found him already dead. He died from a low blood glucose level due to not being able to keep anything down and using insulin that had nothing to cover. He was loved by many, I could always depend on him to keep me updated on my mama and to tell me all the funny things she had been up to....he really got a chuckle out of her trying to sell her shoes to a gentleman with no legs....he is greatly missed I can tell you.

    Diabetes touches our lives in many ways, those that don't have the disease might not see the true tragedy in Jerry's death as I do. An intestinal flu that most of us get over quickly took his life because of diabetes. We need a cure for diabetes, it may not come in our lifetime, but someday I hope people with diabetes will read the history of the thousands of years diabetes has taken its toll and be thankful to their God that they do not have to fight this beast of a disease since there is a cure.


    Bless you and yours.


    Marty


    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Marty,

      The pain is short term for people like us - she is in a much better place. My only issues is I am close on the software for diabetics and will still bring it forward in her honor.

      This blessed beast inside us just sometimes waits to take us - I will pray for Jerry and the nursing facility to heal from this. I will bring this forward in this next series as I am going to focus on the goods and bads with natural products and what I have learned.

      On the cure, I think I am afraid the medical industry does not want to cure things like diabetes, cancer, or aids. The medical profession would be out of business. We are at the hands of those that actually treat us - bad place to be in my mind.

      I still pray for a cure all the time.

      Miss all of you but back in a dark hole with work and will not come out again until after Easter and you must know starting Thursday night through Sunday is a special time for me.

      Delete

  2. A TRUE LIFE TESTIMONY
    OF HOW I GOT CURED FROM
    DIABETES VIRUS[with Herbal
    Traditional medicine]
    Hello My Name is Ross Mary,I am Out here to give my
    testimony about a Herbalist doctor called OBOITE
    who helped me in my life. I was infected with
    DIABETES VIRUS in 2010, i went to many
    hospitals for cure but there was no solution, so I
    was thinking how can I get a solution out so that
    my body can be okay. One day I was in the river
    side thinking where I can go to get solution. so a
    lady walked to me telling me why am I so sad
    and i open up all to her telling her my problem,
    she told me that she can help me out, she
    introduce me to a doctor who uses herbal
    medication to cure DIABETE VIRUS and
    gave me his email, so i mail him. He told me all
    the things I need to do and also give me
    instructions to take, which I followed properly.
    Before I knew what is happening after two weeks
    the DIABETE VIRUS that was in my
    body got vanished . So if you are also heart
    broken and also need a help, you can also email
    him at: droboitespellcaster@yahoo.com or you can cantact him on this +2348167554235.
    He also have a herbal cure for;
    1.HIV,
    2.IMPOTENCE,
    3.LOW SPERM COUNT,
    4.BARENESS/INFERTILITY,
    5.HERPES
    VIRUS
    Contact him today and you will have a
    testimony...Good luck!
    I can't stop talking about this man called Dr.
    OBOITE cause he is a God sent to cure humans
    from different DISEASES with herbal
    medications,he cured me of DIABETEs ,he
    will also help you.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Hi,

    I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes. Diabetes diet and exercise did not help me. I researched online and this is what I had, it is called Dawn Phenomenon where my glucose would be high during the night and early morning hours (between 3:00 a.m. and 8:00 a.m). I found DR.ODUDU natural Africa remedy "Dr. ODUDU HERBAL REMEDY WAS A BIG HELP TO ME" and now my blood sugar levels are back to normal. My glucose numbers in the morning were from 117 to 119. When I take Dr. ODUDU Product daily as soon as I get up on a empty stomach (30 minutes before eating), the numbers go down to 101 to 104 after drinking it for only 14 days, on How to Live long Healthy Life. You can contact Dr. ODUDU Office you can massage him direct on his Facebook page https://web.facebook.com/DR.ODUDUHERBALHOME/?fref=ts email dr.oduduherbalhome@gmail.com call or whassapp +2348101571054 thanks and please inform him about my publish ones you get contact with him stay bless..dr.oduduherbalhome@gmail.com

    ReplyDelete

Please leave your comments or suggestions - looking to getting some good discussions going. Tell me what you have tried and what has or has not worked.

Thanks for the support