Teaches Us How To Live - And To Die
FBS - 02/16/2014 - 135. I am still running high and trying to get back to norm. However, last night I played cards with our new neighbors group and I had great cards and great food - so I won at cards and lost the meter game. By the way I was high man and my wife was high lady - a good night for the Dant's and the cards.
BP - 02/16/2014 - 139/78 - not bad after giving up my medicines and not taking anything over the past 2 weeks. I will have to monitor closely as now it has returned to normal and I have to be careful.
This sure seems like a morbid topic or it could be. But I think it a fact of life us diabetics live with constant life threatening events like losing limbs, heart failure, and many other related illnesses and threats on our life. Therefore, I think it valuable that we have a higher power who can help us deal with both subjects.
I have a close friend and partner in London. A few years back David was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. Doctors told David he had till the end of the year to live and his diagnoses come in June - 6 months to live at the longest.
I struggled with what I was going to do as I knew I was going to see him but what would I say, how would I handle the situation, and how would I say goodbye.
Then as I discussed this with my Higher Power - God, I received a simple answer to my question. Go see David and take him the Book of Life and Death - the Bible. I went to see David on his birthday - or the day after - in August. The first night I was there I presented David with the Bible I had wrapped to give him as a present. Before giving David the Bible, I explained it would either be the best gift he could receive or it was going to be a disaster for both of us. I did not know David's belief system - yet I knew he knew mine. So I was afraid David would be offended and might take my meaning wrong.
I should have known that if God sent me the message then it would be OK. It turns out God did know best. David and I had a solid discussion about how the Word of God teaches us how to live and how to prepare for death. My intent was to remove or reduce David's burden knowing he only had 6 month's to live. We also discussed his childhood and how his parents took him to church but when he become older he moved God out of his daily life but still believed.
So David and I agreed that only he and God would decide when he was going to leave this earth and we as a team were going to spend time preparing David. I explained to David that I think my God loves it when his children lean into him for help and comfort. So going to church and reading the Bible and using it for comfort - I thought was just what he wanted.
Well, David's story could take a blog all by itself - but we should cut it short here. David did pick up the Bible and went to church with me that Sunday. After I left, David had many thoughts and figured it would not hurt to get to know God again, so he went back to his church that his parents took him to. At a Sunday service, David ran into a female friend he used to work with and they liked each a lot when they worked together. Long story short - David has a new life and a new soul mate. The two of them now enjoy a lot of time together, travel together, go to church together, and share each other's life threats and successes.
Yes, much to my surprise and David's surprise; God did use me to send a message to David, Time to start living, not dying. David listened and he is living. Yes, he will die like all of us - but not until he and God decide. When he does, we both know where he is going. By the way, I had an hour chat with David today and he is doing great although London is getting pounded with bad weather.
Love at first siteMany of you might know I am a Catholic and my wife and I also attend a non-denominational church. So we go to two churches on Sunday. Today, like many times the sermons were the same and each reminded me of the small things we should do in life to live as our High Power wants us to live.
Love at first site and what does that truly mean. We were asked in the Catholic service if we believed in love at first site - and there was a split. Father went on to explain how God sees love at first site and how the things in us do not allow us to see other humans for who they are and not to prejudge - but see them as his children. If we come to meet someone with prejudice, anger, hate, and any other mean attitudes, how could we see the other person with love when all of that exists in our heart.
In the ADA community, we have an individual who posts things and gets beat up by the professionals and I am not sure why - other than his means of doing that do not come across right to the other members. I think if they saw him as someone who was near death and pulled himself back out of his situation or if they saw him as someone who did that a certain way and had a certain believe, I think they would not be hard on him - they would actually congratulate him for fighting back. You see, he appears to have different thoughts than many of those on the site. Does that make him a bad person, no just has different thoughts. So my God ask me first to see him as a Child of the King and then start there. If I disagree I can do that without being mean or prejudice.
Us diabetics go through this all of the time and so do many people with ailments. It is like when I am at a party or place for the first time and say "No thanks, I am a diabetic"; people will stop to think and then treat me different. Why is that, I am a human being who happens to have a disease that cannot be cured call diabetes. The reason, they have no knowledge of the disease and their first impression is I am a person who has not taken care of myself and therefore I am a bad person. Too bad the world usually judges a book by its cover first.
Our Higher Power teaches us to love unconditionally and accept those around us for who they are. If we march through life being frustrated we are diabetics and carry a chip on our shoulder - we might miss seeing Love at First Site. We might miss that small moment when we get a chance to enjoy a small slice of life and create a moment.
In the other church, the lesson was on building friends and how studies are now saying that friends and close friends are what gives long lasting life and helps manage so many ailments. The concept is that building close friendships allows one to be free of mind and find support in others. You did hear me right, having close friends can help with many ailments.
The example used was David and his relationship with Saul's son - Jonathan. David and Jonathan had a life time friendship that was a priority to each in their life and that friendship helped them accept the adversity of life. The friendship turned out to save them both in the end.
There are friends we have had for life time and we should nourish those relationships and also create new ones. A person who has two or three close friends they can share their frustrations and joys with, be honest with, support and get support is invaluable in this attempt of ours to fight this disease. Our friends will never judge us a bad because we are diabetics.
For me, I think the internet and communities allow us to develop a different kind of close friend - one we share the same situations (like diabetes) so we have the ability to generate close friends and share with each other, our ups and downs.
Back to the person who the community is a little rough on, then it does not always work out that everyone is going to be friends - some people will be and some people will not be friends. We need to chose our friends so they bring these things to our life; support, openness, honesty, and the ability to express our deepest thoughts with someone who cares.
So if you have diabetes and reading this - join a group, build some relationships, get involved with those that suffer from the same disease - it will help. Do not try to fight this as a lonely person, you must reach out to your High Power for all they provide, learn to live, get some friends, and go through life noticing love at first site in all of life's little moments.
God grant us the ability to learn how live and die. Give us the first love site we need to go though life and enjoy all the moments we are presented and to get the full view of the benefits we have received. May you fill our hearts with lots of friends to help us manage our emotions along with our blood glucose levels.